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“A people that does not have care for [the elderly], that does not treat them well, has no future: such a people loses its memory and its roots.” Pope Francis

IN OUR STAY-YOUNG-AT-ALL-COSTS WORLD, it would be easy to look at old age as a stage of life that should be dreaded or, at the very least, approached with a large dose of trepidation and fear. But folks on the frontlines—from brand new card-carrying senior citizens to awe-inspiring centenarians— know a well-kept secret about old age:

Membership has its privileges, and we’re not just talking about discounts at movie theaters and restaurants. Old age is about far more than dealing with new aches and pains, gray hair and wrinkles. For many older adults, their senior years are a time of growth, purpose, peacefulness, and joy. 


Although many other cultures around the world put their elders on a pedestal, ours tends to look the other way, perhaps because we don’t want to see where we’re headed ourselves. In the end, all of us lose out because the cliché is true: with age comes wisdom. Our elders have much to teach us, much to share, and much yet to do in their senior years, even if it’s from a retirement community, wheelchair or a hospital bed.

According to a report in the New York Times,  studies show that by 2050, the number of Americans over the age of 65 will almost double, bringing their numbers to 83.7 million, or about one-fifth of the population. Another study by the Yale School of Public Health looked at Facebook groups created by 20- to 29-year-olds and found that “three quarters of the groups were found to denigrate old people. More than a third advocated banning old people from public activities like shopping.” These two groups could be on a collision course if we don’t recalculate.

“Ageism has been described as a prejudice against one’s future self. It tells us that age is our defining characteristic and that, as midnight strikes on a milestone birthday, we will become nothing but old—emptied of our passions, abilities and experience, infused instead with frailty and decline,” writes Anne Karpf in the New York Times.

At the other end of the spectrum, in places like China where the elderly are held up as models and 
mentors, senior citizens actually fare better on memory tests compared to their aging counterparts in America. “The beliefs that we imbibe about our waning powers may turn out to be selffulfilling.

In effect, our culture teaches us how to be old,” Karpf says. In other words, loving and appreciating our elders is not just good for older adults but good for everyone. So how do we begin to transition from fearing old age to celebrating it? Do we see our older family members, friends, and neighbors as a burden that saps our precious time or as a precious treasure that can ease our daily burdens, if not physically then spiritually and emotionally?

 

Like Fine Wine

“There is a fountain of youth: it is your mind, your talents, the creativity you bring to your life and the lives of people you love. When you learn to tap this source, you will truly have defeated age.” —Sophia Loren

Some things get better with age. Cheese and wine are perfected by the aging process. Classic cars are more likely to turn heads than boring newer models. The same could be said of classic older people. Getting older does not mean becoming useless or irrelevant, just the contrary. Today getting older often means finding new purpose, whether through second careers, hobbies, volunteer efforts, or simply jumping into this stage of life with gusto rather than reluctance.

In his book, Rich in Years: Finding Peace and Purpose in a Long Life, Johann Christoph Arnold explains,“Growing older can be a gift, but only if we surrenderourselves to God’s plan. Then we can stopcomplaining about things we can’t do anymore andrealize that God is finding new ways to use us.”Rev. Billy Graham also tackles the topic of aging inhis book Nearing Home: Life, Faith, and Finishing Well: “As we grow older, it’s easy to feel that thereis nothing else to conquer, so some retreat to thegolf cart or the rocking chair. The truth is that wegain new experiences until we die. About the onlything that comes to us without effort is old age. But old age does not exempt us from fulfilling our purpose in life.”

Even if our senior years are a long way off, Graham is right. Life seems to pick up speed as we age. So young or old, we can benefit from viewing our later years with anticipation rather than anxiety.
Whether we’re looking in the mirror or looking at an aging parent or grandparent, it helps if we can see our elders as beacons of light rather than shadows of yesterday. Think of older adults as lighthouses on the beach at sunset. Yes, they may be in the twilight of their lives but they remain a guiding force for all they encounter. 

Maryknoll Sister Madeline Dorsey is one of those guiding lights. At age 96, she is retired from active ministry but still going strong. “My bedroom is my chapel, in my favorite chair, in prayer,” says Sister Madeline, who has served in six countries over the course of her 78 years as a Maryknoll Sister. She now focuses her energy on prayer, especially for the people of her beloved El Salvador. She’s not alone in her determination to remain a critical part of her community’s missioneven if she can’t be an active part of the ministriesthat span the globe.

“We want to be involved as much as possible,”Sister Madeline says of her fellow elderly sistersnow focused on prayer. “Our concern for the pooris uppermost; so we pray, we are aware…yes,aware even at 95 plus.”When Sister Madeline was honored with a Doctorof Humane Letters from Le Moyne College in Syracuse a few years ago, the administration said,“Sister Maddie not only symbolizes a generation ofextraordinary religious women; she herself servesas an example of creative generosity for us all—asa nurse, as a teacher…and now as she serves theSpanish-speaking community in New Haven. Hermany accomplishments combined with her winningsmile and sense of humor, make SisterMaddie a worthy role model for Le Moyne studentswho will face their own extraordinary challengesin this new century.”

For those lucky college students, Sister Madelinewill have taught them that aging doesn’t have tomean declining, so long as they continue to seekout people and opportunities that will benefit fromtheir experience and satisfy their longings to beneeded, involved and valued.

 

 

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